Build Authentic & Lasting Relationships
Learn proven communication skills in a supportive community of men
Next Cohort: Sep 3-24, 2025
Next Cohort: September 3-24, 2025
Join the first, small-group run of Fluent Masculinity 101 and help shape the future of the program
The Relationship Skills No One Ever Taught You
You're successful on paper but struggle to connect. With loved ones and colleagues, you overthink, criticize, or avoid—because no one taught you how to be both kind and honest at the same time.
Most men were taught to value logic over emotion, leaving them disconnected at work and at home. To master relationships—and life—you must lead from your head and your heart.
You deserve relationships that feel authentic, deep, and safe. You deserve a proven system, a supportive community to practice with, and real coaching feedback so the skills become second nature.
The Path to Connection and Confidence
Train in a Community of Committed Men
Step 1: Join a Cohort
Commit to a small group of men on the same journey. You will train together and support each other's growth.
Step 2: Sharpen Your Skills
Follow a proven framework, practice in real conversations, and get feedback that turns insights into instinct.
Step 3: Lead with Connection
Apply your skills in your relationships. It will be a life-long journey worth every ounce of effort.
Fluent Masculinity 101
A 4-Week Training for Lasting Connection
Over four weeks, you'll learn and practice essential skills to strengthen every part of your life — from self-awareness to conflict resolution. Each week builds on the last, giving you a clear, repeatable framework you can rely on long after the program ends.
This is the pilot cohort of Fluent Masculinity 101. We're keeping the group small and intentional so participants get more direct access and can help refine the experience for future cohorts. As part of this first run, you'll have the chance to give feedback, shape the curriculum, and be part of an early community of men committed to growth.
Course Structure
Week 1: Foundations & Self-Regulation
Learn to track your nervous system, name emotions, and create internal safety.
Week 2: Empathy & Needs Awareness
Parse needs from stories. Build presence. Practice attuned listening.
Week 3: Honest Expression & Boundaries
Speak with clarity and care. Set boundaries that honor yourself and others.
Week 4: Integration & Self-Leadership
Connect with your inner parts, align with values, and take ownership of your growth.
What's Included
Live Practice Sessions
Weekly Zoom calls with real-time feedback and practice
Weekly Lessons
Accessible, concise content you can revisit anytime
Intimate Cohort Size
Capped at 6 men for depth, trust, and real connection
Integration Prompts
Reflection tools to apply what you learn in daily life
Private Community
Stay connected between and after sessions
Next Cohort
September 3-24, 2025
Live sessions are held online on Wednesdays from 6pm PT to 8pm PT
Introductory Rate: $275 (Regular $495)
Only 6 spots. Applications are reviewed on a rolling basis.
Apply now to reserve your spot
Apply for the Pilot CohortThis is not a drop-in course. It's a focused training with a small group of committed men.
I've Been Where You Are
Hi, I'm Shu.
I know what it's like to have a successful career yet still struggle with relationships.
I come from an immigrant family where security came first. We didn't talk about feelings or the importance of close relationships. I earned a master's from UC Berkeley, worked in consulting, and spent over a decade in tech; but something was missing.
Ten years ago, I turned toward healing. I became a yoga instructor, studied spiritual traditions, and began practicing and teaching Nonviolent Communication. Today, my life is full of love, connection, and purpose.
I know my early struggles aren't unique. I've been leading men's groups for the past three years, and I see how much men are silently suffering. I feel fortunate to have found a different path—and I want to share it.
Fluent Masculinity is my way of giving back. If you're ready to step into something deeper, I'd be honored to support you.
Why Learn From Me
- 3+ years leading men's groups focused on emotional depth and authentic connection
- 5+ years teaching Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
- 4 years teaching trauma-informed yoga with an emphasis on embodiment
- 20+ years of personal practice in mindfulness, psychology, and spirituality
- Former VP of Engineering at a wellness tech company, blending systems thinking with human growth
What Other Men Have to Say
Shu listens with patience and no judgment, challenges my beliefs with compassion, and helped me reconnect with myself and make peace with my past.
Through Shu's guidance, I learned how to ground myself in conversation, which gave me clarity and confidence in who I am. His advice on speaking from the heart still resonates today.
Shu's guidance helped me turn tense work relationships into cooperative ones, and be more present and connected with my partner at home.
Join the community of men who are building real relationships.
Apply for the Pilot Cohort
Create Alignment with Your Values and in Your Relationships
When you master these skills, you'll:
- Speak honestly without damaging trust
- Build deep, lasting connections
- Handle conflict with clarity and calm
- Know your truth and stand in it with confidence
This is the transformation waiting for you—and it starts with one step.
Apply for the Pilot Cohort
Don't Let Loneliness Win
If nothing changes, you may:
- Keep feeling misunderstood from the people you care about
- Let small misunderstandings grow into lasting rifts
- Stay stuck in surface-level interactions that drain you
- Miss the chance to build the relationships you really want
You can break the cycle—starting with honesty and courage.
Take the First Step Toward the Relationships You Want
You don't have to figure this out alone. Join a small group of committed men, get the tools you were never taught, and start building relationships that feel real, strong, and lasting.
Next Cohort: September 3–24, 2025
Only 6 spots — applications reviewed as they come in.